Wednesday, March 11, 2020

How is Social Distancing affecting us?

With the onset of Covid-19 (Coronavirus), we have all been encouraged to practice Social Distancing.  What Is Social Distancing? It is a term applied to certain actions that are taken by the public to stop or slow down the spread of a highly contagious disease.  The objective is to keep people from interacting closely or frequently enough to spread the disease. Schools and other gathering places, such as movie theaters, may be instructed to close and sports events and religious services may be cancelled.


The panic associated with what the media is reporting has contributed to a change in emotions for many of us.  I have been addressing it lately with my clients and students because I am concerned that they do not realize what is really happening.  In the span of just a few weeks, we have begun to isolate ourselves from each other.  People feel anxiety, worry, or fear related to their own health status and the health status of others who may have been exposed to the virus.   There is a resentment that your friends and family may feel if they need to go into quarantine as a result of contact with someone who has been affected.   There is concern about being able to effectively care for children or family members, uncertainty or frustration about how long you will need to remain in this situation and concern about the future. The tumultuous ride the stock market has been taking is wreaking havoc with our retirement funds.  We feel loneliness associated with the feeling of being cut off from the world and from loved ones. Perhaps you are experiencing boredom and frustration because you may not be able to work or engage in regular day-to-day activities.  Maybe there is an increased desire to use alcohol or drugs to cope. Symptoms of depression, such as feelings of hopelessness, changes in appetite or sleeping too little or too much have been part of your daily life.  You get the picture. 

What is fueling all of the above is the fact that our society requires a certain degree of interaction and connection with the human race in order to experience joy.  Social Distancing has forced us to change our habits.  I work in the business world during the day and now, when greeting clients and business associates, there is no handshake.  Just an awkward silence as you wave at each other from a respectable distance.  Working in the fitness world, I am used to receiving hugs and embraces from clients and students because they want to express their happiness at experiencing a breakthrough or a positive moment.  There is none of that now.  Again we just stare awkwardly at each other and just shrug our shoulders. Yes, people are anxious, worried, angry and frustrated at having to curtail their emotions.  The other day a bike messenger was aiming directly at me on a totally empty Manhattan street.  I stopped and bravely, in my best Carrie Mathison moment, stared him in the face.  He must have heard the silent voice in my head saying, “Dude – you SO need a hug” and that stopped him dead in his tracks. 

As humans, we NEED to connect with others.  What we are experiencing right now is a lack of the touch and hugging that was part of our lives prior to the arrival of the Coronavirus.  Reaching out to people you trust is one of the best ways to reduce anxiety, depression, loneliness, and boredom during social distancing, quarantine, and isolation. Think of the ways that you can do that: using telephone, email, text messaging and social media to connect with friends, family, and others.  Talk “face to face” with friends and loved ones using Skype or FaceTime.  In addition, use practical ways to cope and relax by doing things that work for you.  Take deep breaths, meditate, stretch and engage in activities that you enjoy.  Aside from “washing your hands often and not touching your face”, make sure you get enough rest and eat cleanly to boost your immune system.    We will all come in contact with pathogens.   The trick is that we can fight this off if our immune system is functioning at its  highest level.    

So, as the world attempts to get Covid-19 under control, Lysol your surfaces 😊, be proactive instead of reactive, talk about your experiences and feelings to loved ones and friends, maintain a sense of hope and positive thinking and continue to hug.  What????  No - not the real thing but how about a virtual hug?  Try it!  I guarantee it will make you feel better because it’s what comes natural to us 😊

Keep calm and carry on!


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